Were you aware that monsters main source of nourishment comes from grass. Also, did you know there is an Apparently a Mom Youtube Channel?
While I was in labour I kept asking my nurse why women have more than one child. I could not understand why anyone would go through that a second time. In those moments I was not even sure why I was putting myself through it. She thought it was funny and laughed at me, I guess she knew the answer, she had been in my position before. I didn’t appreciate her laugh then but I understand it now, she smiled but her eyes knew, and she said nothing because I was about to know.
Have you ever been told, “you will forget all about the pain” when someone is referring to childbirth? I think it is everyones favourite thing to say. Honestly, it is bullshit. Who do these women think they are fooling? You never forget and it is horrible. We need to invent something to stop people from saying this. It really gets on my nerves. Maybe I am the odd one out but I would rather have someone tell me like it really is. I felt like there was so much I had to discover for myself with the birth of my son that a little honest warning would have been more appreciated. The fluffy whimsical fairy tales people like to tell about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood isn’t helpful.
I will never forget the pain that came with the birth of my son, I will never forget what it took to bring him in to this world. I do not even know how I made it through that thinking back on it. Would I do it again? In a heart beat. The moment he was out the pain eased and all I could concentrate on was knowing if my child was okay, that I wanted to see and hold him finally. That my friend, is the honest truth. You don’t forget, it just doesn’t matter any longer.
My son discovered his feet a couple of weeks ago. Naturally, he has not stopped playing with them since. Have you ever looked in to a baby’s eyes the moment they discover something new? There is a spark, a light, in their eyes that was not there before. You can almost see them learning. If you have not experienced this, I hope that one day you are able to. I have been lucky enough to see those exact moments twice now. The first time he realized he had hands and the second, his feet. You know that feeling you get when you come to a realization? It just washes over you. I imagine that is how babies feel when they figure out that those funny little wiggly toes belong to them.
It is so simple, so natural, and so perfect. I am not sure what will come next. I imagine getting up on his hands and knees since he already rolls all over the place and scoot around on his stomach. The days go by so fast, although they can seem so long.
I admire him often, it has been rewarding and enlightening to watch him grow every day. I try to take it all in and adapt some of that lost child like magic in my life- like, when ten little fingers meet ten little toes and there is nothing more needed in the world.
Why are we so judgemental as Mothers? It is like pushing a kid out of your body makes you Queen-of-all-things-parenting. It is one thing to speak up out of genuine concern but to shove your opinion in someone else’s face- just because you did not do it that way- is ridiculous. If I have my kid not strapped in his car seat in a moving vehicle, please say something to me – I have clearly lost my mind. If you just do not like that I give my baby bottles, you can go walk into oncoming traffic, seriously.
I have been fairly lucky to not have people give me unwanted “advice” but many of my fellow Mothers are not so fortunate. I have also noticed it is quite the topic of concern for a lot of parents. With the rise of social media in our daily lives people tend to post quite a few pictures of their little ones. This becomes troublesome when someone viewing your pictures finds something they do not agree with. Say you innocently snap a picture of Junior eating some French fries and post it on Facebook, “LOL guys, we are noming on some cheezburgarz for lunch”. Well, I can guarantee you someone on your friend’s list is sitting behind a screen going on about how they would never let little Suzie eat such junk. How dare you feed your child such nonsense! Don’t you know they are going to drop dead at fifteen if they eat even one hamburger?
We all have an opinion on pretty much everything – just because you have an opinion does not mean you are all-knowing. Mothers online seem to not have a filter and cannot seem to figure out that not every child on the planet is theirs to parent. Whatever happened to women sticking together? Being a Mother is hard enough without having people jump on your back for every little thing. When did we get to a point that every suggestion is taken as an insult to our parenting? I should not have to question whether or not to tell the (hypothetical) mother that just posted a picture of her three-month old not properly strapped in to her car seat that, that is not a good idea. Giving someone advice out of genuine concern should not be met with animosity. When someone gives me advice I take it into consideration. What if that advice saves my child’s life one day? I am not telling anyone to just blindly follow what someone tells them to do with their child, who knows where this person is getting their information. Also, just because this one thing worked for their child does not mean it will work for yours. Take what everyone tells you and store it away in your mind for future reference, use it as a starting point for research. Think for yourself and parent your way but do not dismiss the people who are giving you advice because they care – do not attack those people either, they mean well and who needs the bad karma? Not me, I get enough of it on my own.
Feeling a little like Super Mom the last couple of weeks. I cannot believe I am now to the point where I can actually manage to get things done that do not have to do with the baby. My little guy is a month old now and it seems like a few days ago I was a walking zombie that could not even manage to go to the bathroom without some sort of help. While I still do not get to pee as much as I would like, it is nice to have little moments to do other things for my own sanity. I never thought I would be happy to do the dishes. Sure, I could still use the million hours of sleep I must have lost and the new mom bags under my eyes prove that but you have to pick your battles.
I guess it gets easier as time goes on, you live and you learn like everything else in life. Every moment is worth it though. I might not be super productive or productive at all in a day but my life has never been more fulfilled.
My entire pregnancy I spent my time preparing in any way that I could. Making a birth plan is an important way lots of soon to be moms spend their time preparing, I was no different. I intended on having a natural, medication free, with the least possible amount of medical interventions birthing experience. As usual, nothing went as planned and shit hit the fan even before my day came. What I ended up with was being pumped full of drugs and using quite a few interventions. That is one thing I have learned in my three short weeks being a Mom. Actually, it is probably the first thing I learned in my new role; nothing goes as planned. You know what? It sucks. I am the kind of person that needs control of situations and that definitely does not happen in my life any longer. I would not change it for the world though.
As I type this I am sitting here looking over at my beautiful three week old son who is currently napping in his swing. He is perfect and I have never been more happy than at this point. This little guy is pure chaos in my life but it is just so right. Being a Mom is crazy and we are crazy to go through everything we do to be parents. I totally get it now though, these moments are so precious and are gone entirely too fast. I intend to enjoy every single moment of chaos, as hard as it might be sometimes.